I woke at 2:30 this morning. Started writing some versus sporadically as I tried to get back to sleep. I couldn’t, my mind going on it’s own journey of thought. Quickly it came to Valentine’s Day, as I had already seen some posts about the upcoming day. Most were articles about how to spend the day, treat your loved one, buy them x or y. Others where comments and blog posts about not having a Valentine, and coming to grips with being ok with it. At 3:30 I decided my intent for the morning was to write a poem about Loving Myself, however, at 6:30 I was awoken by this poem sent by a friend. Written by Charlie Chaplin it says what I’d want to convey.
As I Begin to Love Myself, by Charlie Chaplin.
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!
We all seek to love and be loved, be we can’t truly and freely do so without first loving ourselves. Even if we have that special “other” for tomorrow, the love you can give them grows exponentially if first you love yourself.
So, with that I declare the day before Valentine’s from this day forward to be National I Love Myself Day. This isn’t to take away from Hallmark’s day, but rather to get us in a better frame of mind to enjoy it whether you have another or not. To learn to spend a moment, a day, to appreciate ourselves without expectation or judgement.
So, today look in the mirror, into your eyes as you would your lover’s and say, “I love you.” For you men, like me, who feel uncomfortable with such a gesture, try this: “I love you man!”
Treat yourself today:
- Buy yourself a treat, even if it is bad.
- Take a timeout at a coffee shop
- Read a book
- Take yourself to the movies
- Give yourself a bear hug
Like, comment, retweet, or share this post only after doing one of the above, or share another way you’re going to celebrate National I Love Myself Day.
Live this day, this moment, and go into tomorrow with a renewed perspective.